Suggestions on improving atmosphere

[Zander?]

Darthe for committee co-chair!

 

AND MEANT IT.

 

 

FML

[Nolder]

 

 

What if it was just 2 other people?  Like 2 people weigh in with their thoughts and concerns on an issue I bring to them, and then I take their advice into consideration?

 

The decision still comes from me, so people can have me be the bad guy if they want, but I'll have a better perspective if I choose the right people to be the council.

 

None of this is concrete, btw - just fishing for ideas and thoughts.  :-)

I don't want people to weigh in. I want decisions to be individual and you have the authority, as head mod, to override the Jr mods.

I think people have their own thoughts and that's fine but I don't think the decision on whether or not to temp ban someone from games (or worse) should be handled by committee. 

 

I mean, who's the right people? Is it people who's judgment you already mostly agree with? What then is the point?

Or is it people who challenge your thoughts? But if that's the case what happens when you're challenged are you just going to override the council every time or are you just going to let them run things as they see fit?

Or would you aim for a mix? In which case no one will ever agree and someone will always be unhappy with decisions made.

 

I'm telling you man this council thing is a lot more stress than your life needs. It's not worth it and the forum and survive without it.

 

 

No, it is people who's judgment I trust - regardless of whether they agree with me or not.  THAT is the part you're missing.  Example:  if you forced a modkill and outed your mafia team, you'd deserve a timeout, right?  Better yet, if LEELOU did the same, do you think I'd let it slide because I'm friends with her?

 

The answer is no.  I'm comfortable enough both in my friends and in my authority on DM to act appropriately and I choose friends that won't be so narrow minded as to not want to be friends with me anymore if they made a mistake and I punished them for it.  My point is that I'd surround myself with people like me - who's judgment I trust and who would be unbiased.  I don't care if they think I'm 100% wrong all the time - I want them because they'll tell me these things and I can trust their judgment comes from a good place.

 

If I do it alone, people might think I'm the one who isn't unbiased - this was simply an idea to solve for that (a little).

 

You trust them, sure. But would everybody? What about when newbies come crawling from the social orgs or better yet when people come to play on DM for the first time. There is no trust, just authority. Which is why it makes more sense to me to skip the pretense of advisement and pseudo democracy and just appoint an assistant moderator for the board. If it's someone you trust that is perfect and it wont matter whether anyone else trusts them or not because they have the authority, just like you do.

[Nolder]

Or, you know, do nothing. 

I guess there was an incident that sparked this conversation but does it necessitate running things differently?

Verbal if you're going to be around there probably isn't any need to change anything tbh.

It's just a matter of if you feel overworked or not imo.

[Nynaeve]

So really, it comes down to this = do you guys trust my judgment?

 

Do you want me to answer that, or shall I just glare?

[John Snow]

 

 

 

 

I don't want this to be the carebear board, btw.  You guys know I play on JN, and I'm part of the normal crew there - that place is as toxic as can be sometimes.  They're going through a rough patch right now, but I know it'll go back to normal eventually.

 

I want people to dig in and get testy.  Be feisty.  But learn the limits, and respect them.  And when they are crossed, don't ignore it.  Friggin' apologize like a normal person ffs.

 

 

AND MEANT IT.

 

 

Good.

 

 

Do people tell you often that they have a very visceral temptation to tell you 'you know nothing'?

 

;-)

 

 

I EVERYONE tells him all the time. :) 

 

 

FTFY

[Verbal32]

Or, you know, do nothing. 

I guess there was an incident that sparked this conversation but does it necessitate running things differently?

Verbal if you're going to be around there probably isn't any need to change anything tbh.

It's just a matter of if you feel overworked or not imo.

 

I'll be around.

 

 

 

 

So really, it comes down to this = do you guys trust my judgment?

 

Do you want me to answer that, or shall I just glare?

 

 

Heh, a glare would be just fine, thanks.

[Nynaeve]

Missed the Giles quote then. That's.....disappointing.

[Hallia]

Giles

[鲍勃不是我的名字]

So we've had some issues in a few recent games where people have clearly let their emotions get the better of them and it has spilled outside of games to some pretty nasty stuff.

 

There are many ways to solve for this, but one I thought of was a "mafia usergroup" where I can remove people that need a "time out" from posting on this board.  I could potentially reinstate the mod council and have them vote on whether people need a time out - essentially becoming my assistant board mods and helping make those decisions.

 

Or I could be a tyrant and do it myself (I'm joking).

 

Thoughts?  Suggestions?  Leave it alone?  Do it!?

 

Sensitivity training.  Many available online.  I could make one for your website for  $10 per pupil.  Let me know.

[Darthe]

Can I vote for sensitivity training too?

 

As co-chairman I think I should be able to.

[Cory Caboose]

[Verbal32]

 

That fits my impression.

[Hallia]

We might sometimes be dysfunctional, but at the end of the day we're a family and we all love each other.  It's just people forget that sometimes.

[Lenlo]

I dont know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve. #DMFamily.

[Andrej]

You know what every good family gathering needs?

 

Politics discussion.

[Hallia]

*tackles AJ*

 

He means Game of Thrones politics!

[Calder]

*tackles AJ*

He means Game of Thrones politics!

I only stand with:

 

[Hallia]

Bow before your Haleesi!

[Nolder]

You know what every good family gathering needs?

 

Politics discussion.

[Andrej]

[Verbal32]

^ is that the Adele video?

 

If so, I love that skit.

[Andrej]

Sure is.

 

Freaking hilarious

[Verbal32]

100%

[Verbal32]

Thanks, Adele!

[Zander?]

 

OMFG CORY CURREN YOUVE COME BACK TO ME!!!!!!

 

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3