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[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

*claws tink as if to disembowel him*

 

gerroff!

[Aiel Heart]

kitty doesn't like hugs or being slept on

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

this is true.

[Aiel Heart]

you initiated the hug though

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

i am often impulsive.

[Aiel Heart]

I suppose that particular impulse was a mistake now?

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

it was an impulse. impulse control impaired. a mistake is something else.

[Leelou]

I need to change my sig.

[Aiel Heart]

Ok. Well just know that hug impulses are not bad things. It has been proven that hugs make health better! :D

[Netbattler11]

*pets kitteh, since she doesn't like hugs*

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

it has been proven that hugs spread disease and can lead to inappropriate behaviors. it has not been proven that hugs make health better.

 

some people are huggers and enjoy physical contact with acquaintances and even strangers. some people are not casual huggers. there is nothing wrong with keeping yourself to yourself when you want to. for me, hug impulses are bad. i do not have them in real life except with very close friends and family.

 

... i keep my sig simple and don't change it, lee, but that's just me. i may some day i guess. but i can't see them at work anyway. and some of them are a bit flashy for me to look at and make the computer run slower. not yours, but some of the spazzier ones.

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

thanks, maw. maw knows kittehs.

[Aiel Heart]

I pity you your hug-less life, but I respect it :P

[Leelou]

IRL I have a big personal bubble. No hugs/touching me unless I completely trust you or feel comfortable around you. I get where kitty coming from.

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

@Ah i pity your stressed immune system, lol

 

um, no, actually i don't.

 

but this hugging everyone stuff is a really western thing. a good part of the world, maybe most of it, is not OK with snugging up to anyone and everyone, or even standing too close to other people. my personal zone of comfort with unrelated adult humans is about 6 feet, which is pretty much in line with the far east from what i recall of social anthropology. it's not a good or bad thing. it's a different thing. poeople are different, they don't all have to act the same or feel the same. and they don't have to hug casually if they don't want to.

 

a hug is an act of intimacy to me. in RL i mean. *hug* usually doens't freak me out, but sometimes it does.

Edited October 9, 2011 by cindy

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

IRL I have a big personal bubble. No hugs/touching me unless I completely trust you or feel comfortable around you. I get where kitty coming from.

 

 

this is what i'm saying, but you said it better.

[Leelou]

I have glared someone down who touched my arm once. And I will put myself out of reach if you make me really uncomfortable.

[Aiel Heart]

I have four younger siblings that stresses out my immune system more than will :P

 

Once again, I get and respect that

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

yeah, i hear that. i don't like the presumption at all.

 

i was once in a meeting, and one of the women in the meeting reached over and petted my shoulder like a dog. i instantly went red with rage. everyone else in the room knew me and were waiting for serious fireworks, but i just gritted my teeth, pulled my chair as far away as i could and never spoke to her again. been ten years now. still an unpleasant memory.

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

children are terrible sources of contagion. and you can't keep them isolated when they're sick cause they give you the sads. such a trap the little darlings can be.

[Aiel Heart]

not to mention any "normal" stress also weakens your immune system and kids can be VERY stressful :P

 

Then there's those moments where they amaze you that make it worth it

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

yeah. not much point going on without them

[Aiel Heart]

preventing the end of the human race is important to some people

[Mrs. Cindy Gill]

to most of them i should think. but i meant for the joy they bring.

[Aiel Heart]

oh I read that wrong :P probably doesn't surprise you

 

kiddos do bring a lot of joy :) *smiles at the sleepy 5-year-old sitting next to her*