That wasn't his claim. His claim was that every culture has gender roles and that those roles are universally complementary to one another. Which is very clearly what Jordan believed. This doesn't seem particularly controversial.
So is just assuming that someone who uses "we" in that context is referring to literally all book readers. All it takes is a quick moment of reflection to realize that she clearly didn't claim to speak for every single book reader.
Indeed. So everyone just keeps coming back to beat the same dead horse.
That's just not true. There was plenty of disharmony and division following Sanderson's entry into the series.