The whole 'zomg these women died for me *angst!*' thing is pretty annoying to me too. People often talk about how women are less suited to violence and are meant to be protected seem to overlook some things. To cite a WoT example, Juilin has had the experience to not underestimate a woman. Thinking that one woman wouldn't be so eager to try and kill him because of her gender was a mistake since she stuck him like a pig. Plus after that incident in Tear, I don't think he'd have any hesitation about cracking Liandrin over the head with his stick if he had the chance.

some of the most heinous crimes you hear about are committed by women. They are very often underestimated simply because they don't go about their business in the gruff roaring fashion of men.