It seems to me that those who loathe the Perrin story arc must not be or never have been married. I am apporaching 20 years of marriage and if any one kidnapped or harmed my wife and children I would do everything in my power to see that they became one with a shallow grave, most likely in multiple pieces with no reguard for any of those who stood in my way. Also, all other things in my life would take the back seat until she/they returned safely or were avenged. So I guess I can empathize with Perrin in his fear and zealousness.
I have avoided this flamewar, but this crap is insulting (and yes, I am married).
This argument essentially claims that people who hate Perrin's story cannot possibly understand what love is. But many of us who hate the Perrin story do, and that is exactly why we hate the story. Micawber got it completely right on page 2 when he said the following:
read his chapters in LOC and ACOS and you get the image that this man is in a very damaging codependent relationship with an almost bipolar girl
For those of us who have seen our friends destroyed in such relationships (and which resulted in physical harm) this is what makes the Perrin story so painful. There is almost no evidence of a healthy relationship here; it has all the warning signs of a classic codependency. And that is what makes Perrin's descent into darkness even worse. For those of us who have seen these types of relationships in real life, we cannot help ourselves from believing that Perrin is sacrificing his soul for a woman who, at best, will eventually either destroy his independence or cast him away because he is not good enough.
And that would be the good outcome. There is also the real possibility of one of them physically hurting one another someday. Micawber's spanking argument has sort of taken on a life of this own in this thread, but it is evidence of a major, major problem in this relationship: a complete lack of mutual respect for one other. Indeed, no spoilers, but there continues to be a lack of mutual respect in the opening of TGS even though they have been reunited. This is exactly what permits these codependencies to end in physical violence.
I finally understand why don't like Perrin's post-LOC storylines
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I have avoided this flamewar, but this crap is insulting (and yes, I am married).
This argument essentially claims that people who hate Perrin's story cannot possibly understand what love is. But many of us who hate the Perrin story do, and that is exactly why we hate the story. Micawber got it completely right on page 2 when he said the following:
For those of us who have seen our friends destroyed in such relationships (and which resulted in physical harm) this is what makes the Perrin story so painful. There is almost no evidence of a healthy relationship here; it has all the warning signs of a classic codependency. And that is what makes Perrin's descent into darkness even worse. For those of us who have seen these types of relationships in real life, we cannot help ourselves from believing that Perrin is sacrificing his soul for a woman who, at best, will eventually either destroy his independence or cast him away because he is not good enough.
And that would be the good outcome. There is also the real possibility of one of them physically hurting one another someday. Micawber's spanking argument has sort of taken on a life of this own in this thread, but it is evidence of a major, major problem in this relationship: a complete lack of mutual respect for one other. Indeed, no spoilers, but there continues to be a lack of mutual respect in the opening of TGS even though they have been reunited. This is exactly what permits these codependencies to end in physical violence.