GoodGrief, you're right, as it turns out; WH Ch. 34 has "Her name always headed the list...". I can't find the bit about Callandor, but that's probably there someplace. I think I assumed the list went chronologically by death. Rand is not that orderly.

Illyena gets slipped in in Lord of Chaos, much earlier than I remembered - Ch. 26.

Don't forget that at a certain point Lews Therin adds Illeyna to the list, and, if I remember correctly, from that moment on she heads it. I always found that slightly touching and funny.

I can find the reference if you need it.

By the way, good job making me join the forums to reply.