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Elgee

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  1. Autumn (Fall) is my favourite season! I love winter too, but sometimes it gets a bit draggy trying to dry laundry 😛 Spring is 3rd on my list. Summer & I aren't on speaking terms. It's too sunny ... lol So top favourite things of Autumn: 1. the heat finally starts letting up a bit 2. the sun is less there 3. the nights are cooling so you can snuggle in bed but the days can still be quite mild 4. the air and the sky is just that mild and peaceful way that only autumn can be 5. I can make hot curries and other stews more often 😁
  2. Nothing under the blanket ... LoL ... just meant that she could hardly slip away for a Darkfriend Social, for instance. Hahaha it's a pleasure! My memory is usually a few beats behind my fingers (or mouth!), hence the double post.
  3. It is Autumn here (what some of you call Fall). When we were younger, this Easter weekend / school holiday period was when we usually went camping, and later staying at little cottages by the sea. I have the most wonderful memories of those times - it was always my favourite holiday. The sea would be a bit stormy, it usually rained, so we'd light a fire if we could otherwise snuggle under blankets and play cards, or board games, or things like pick up sticks.
  4. Oh my word your Nana sounds like a treat! People of the war era really are a whole different bunch, aren't they?
  5. This, sadly, is something that happens quite often. A moderator will see to the matter but unfortunately we can't actually PREVENT people from posting such things, only moderate after the fact.
  6. I've not posted before, because I've been trying to remember exact dates! Unfortunately, I'm terrible at dates and since we purposefully ignore the death dates, I now can't recall them. But, I remember: Gawie Ryke, my dad, born 9 January 1924 - died December 2006. He was a very clever man, but oh dear only in his own field (designing and manufacturing electrical switchboards). In everything else he was really ... useless. Maddening. Childish. Impulsive. Except for story telling, and having a massive heart. I alternatively loved him, despised him, looked up at him, looked down at him. Now, after so many years, I miss him. I remember how he would go outside with me at night so we could check what was on the moon - the rabbit? the fox? the tortoise? Once we'd decided, he'd make up a story for me about that 🙂 Caren Ryke, my sister, born 18 March 1950 - died 26 August 2017. She was my favourite sister, I have to admit. She was beautiful, and kind, and amazing with animals. She was a radiographer who worked closely with Dr Chris Barnard (the heart surgeon who did the first heart transplant). Later she became a para-medic, and then she trained para-medics. It still makes me mad that she died of a cancer which she could have been treated if she'd been more forceful in telling her doctors that there was something more than sinus wrong with her. She was diagnosed on the 1st of August, and died 26 days later (2 weeks after my birthday). I never had a chance to say good bye to her. (She lived quite far away.) Helena Ryke nee Prins, my mom, born 21 October 1926 - died 31 July 2019 (a week before my birthday) She was beautiful - she actually looked like Rosamund Pike in her youth! She was a strong woman, who had a very, very tough life. in about 2017 we noticed that she was starting to show signs of dementia. In early 2019 we could no longer leave her at home alone. I would come home after work and find her lying in the garden where she'd fallen in the morning, things like that. I can't describe the stress I went through at that time. We tried getting a carer to look after her. We had to give up after the 3rd one, as she simply couldn't get along with them, and none of them were very good. We then had to find a home for her, and the only place available was 90 minute drive away. My sister and I (she, my mom and I lived together) would drive down every Saturday or Sunday to visit her (we both work). It was terrible. My mom would cry and cling to me and beg me to take her home. Eventually on the 29th of July when we went to visit again, we realised that she was having severe stomach pains. We discussed it with the staff who took her to the doctor the following day. The doctor said it was nothing serious - just arthritis. I wasn't reassured, so I talked my other sister into fetching her and bringing her to a local hospital where they discovered that she had a perforated bowel. My mom was screaming with the pain by then. Because of her age, frailty and dementia, they didn't want to operate on her. The doctor said there was basically a zero change of her surviving the op. Because I had power of attorney, I had to make the decision to stop all assistance. They gave her something incredibly strong (more than morphine) and we sat with her through the night and into the afternoon until she died. I have a lot of anger over this. I can only describe my condition as PTSD.
  7. That resonates with me so much! Thank you for those words, SD. Reading about your mom was very moving.
  8. That is such a positive way to remember and honour a loved one. Especially gardening, which can only improve the state of our planet!
  9. It's wonderful that it makes you smile, Lily! That is precious *hugs*
  10. How beautiful! That must be such a wonderful way to remember her, SD 🙂 You've reminded me now of the tapestry my mom made, from wool which she sheared herself from our own sheep, then dyed with natural things like Rooibos tea. I was pre-school then, and used to go sit with her at Mrs Scott's house (her weaving teacher) in Hout Bay. I met Mrs Scott's son, Jamie, there a few times (he didn't go to the same school as me) - he was such a beautiful boy! I had a total crush on him. 40 years later, he walked into my office in a totally different area from where we grew up, and asked me to rent out his house. I didn't recognise him at all, only his name. He'd gotten in with a bad crowd and became an alcoholic and drug addict. So sad. So many memories from one little thing, heh?
  11. I forgot about Ingtar! LoL ... yeah that was the first we became aware of really, wasn't it? He was a sad surprise. And I agree with you, @Lightfriendsocialmistress (we HAVE to get you a shorter nickname!) - I was also very iffy about Cads. Former damane: the strong girl? Now I can't remember her name either. I didn't really suspect her of being a DF, because who would have recruited a damane? And she wouldn't really have had the opportunity to pursue ... ahem .. private activities.
  12. Sheriam came as a surprise to me, I must say, but not Verin. I'm glad I wasn't the only one who was just ever so slightly unsure of Vanin 😆 Going to have to think about it and see ... does anyone have a list of all the confirm and suspected DFs?
  13. The White Tower & Warders are currently hosting a Spring Event. Topics already up are: Links to various threads: Winternight - to remember those who have passed https://dragonmount.com/forums/topic/115797-winternight-to-remember-those-who-have-passed/ How do we remember those who have passed? https://dragonmount.com/forums/topic/115798-how-do-we-remember-those-whove-passed/ Please join in over here:
  14. In our smaller family group we have actually decided to rather celebrate the birth of those who have passed, than remembering the day of their death. In a way it makes us feel closer to them, because we remember them as they were when still alive - it's a happy memory, rather than a grieving one. It actually started with the death of our 1 sister, Caren. She lived in a town quite far from us, whereas we other 4 all live within about 15km from each other. The 4 of us and our mum used to get together for coffee and cake on Caren's birthday, and we'd phone her from where-ever we were to group chat. After she passed, we continued getting together for cake and coffee. We send photos to her son, and he seems to find it therapeutic. We now do this for all our passed loved ones.
  15. There are many cultures in the world, and many ways to remember those who've passed on. How do you remember? Do you follow the traditional way of your culture or religion, or have you developed something of your own? Please share with us here.
  16. Is anyone able to get a clip of the Winternight scene where the lanterns are released on the river? I'm very bad at this type of thing.
  17. Links to various threads: Winternight - to remember those who have passed https://dragonmount.com/forums/topic/115797-winternight-to-remember-those-who-have-passed/ How do we remember those who have passed? https://dragonmount.com/forums/topic/115798-how-do-we-remember-those-whove-passed/
  18. In the Wheel of Time, Bel Tine, also known as Festival, is the Westlands celebration of spring's arrival. It is not set to a specific date, and comes later in northern lands than in the south. It's typically celebrated "when spring had well and truly arrived, the first lambs born and the first crop up." The night preceding Bel Tine is known as Winternight. This is not something I remember from the books (please do correct me if I’m wrong!), but in the adapted TV series, the following tradition is practiced: It is a custom on Bel Tine to light a lantern for deceased loved ones. The purpose of the lantern is to guide their loved one's spirit back to them, and so that the Wheel of Time will weave their loved one's soul back into the world through rebirth. In the Two Rivers, many of the townsfolk float their lanterns down the river, but the lantern can be lit anywhere. [courtesy of https://wheeloftime.fandom.com/wiki/Bel_Tine] What is this particular thread about? Well, we have all had a very rough few years, have we not? Many of us have lost loved ones, to one thing or another. In this thread, we would like to remember them. To light a lantern or candle to remember them, and if your beliefs are such, to help guide their spirits back to us. If you would like to remember someone, please post their names here, and whatever you wish to share with us regarding them. At the end of the week I will put each person’s name in a lantern, and “float it down the river”. My hope is that this act will ease your own soul and the grief you might harbour. I will also host a separate thread where we can discuss what rituals we observe, personally or as part of your religious or belief-system, when someone passes. Please find the link to that thread in the Opening Post.
  19. In the Northern Hemisphere of Earth, in this year of 2023 AD in the Gregorian Calendar, it is the beginning of Spring. To celebrate this, we here at Dragonmount will be hosting a week-long event (using the 10 day version of a week, as per the Farede Calendar in use by the Westlands). All are welcome to participate. There are many celebrations and events associated with this time (Spring / April / May) here on our Earth, and on the Earth of the Wheel of Time. You can see much more detail in further threads to follow, and also at Wikipedia. As examples, here are a few: Easter is one of the most important festivals in the Christian calendar, celebrated annually to commemorate the resurrection of Jesus Christ. Passover is a major Jewish holiday that celebrates the Biblical story of the Israelites' escape from slavery in Egypt. Ramadan is the ninth month of the Islamic calendar,] observed by Muslims worldwide as a month of fasting (sawm), prayer, reflection, and community. A commemoration of Muhammad's first revelation, the annual observance of Ramadan is regarded as one of the Five Pillars of Islam and lasts twenty-nine to thirty days, from one sighting of the crescent moon to the next. In the Wheel of Time, Bel Tine, also known as Festival, is the Westlands celebration of spring's arrival. Lanterns feature in several religions, and also in the WoT. For more on this, please proceed to this thread: Important note: This event is hosted by the White Tower & Warders Social Group / Org. As such, the WT/W rules of behaviour are to be followed. That means please be polite to each other, even if you disagree 😊 The Blessings of the Mother to all who enter here.
  20. Goodness me, how interesting! I love how RJ interspersed these little gems in the books! Like the Merc sign displayed at the Panarch's Palace.
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