My memory of the series is somewhat hazy, being some years since my last run through. However, I seem to remember an incident back in the AoL where the Aiel were sitting in a huge circle around a group of channellers that were killing them. They were singing as they were killed, trying to prompt the channellers to remember who and what they were. 

As I say, my memory is very hazy on the point. I'll get back to the point on this read through eventually, but I always assumed The Song was that song.

There's no free and legal version of the book at all.

Sorry BC. To legally obtain the glossary you will need to purchase either the eBook or paper versions

I rather suspect that balefire directed at a balefire wielder cannot undo the effects of the first balefire. But the threads burned out will remain burned out and in addition, the target of the second balefire will be unrecoverably burned out too.

I wouldn't see there being any need to form a bond in the situation you describe. Simply linking in a circle while working would be enough. The bonding is in effect a kind of pledge of alliegence and service.

Even if you look in the modern world, and equate bonding to marriage (I know, I know, terrible analogy), it's rare to find marriages where the 2 partners are genuinely equal. It is far far more common to find a tendency in 1 partner to defer to the other. Where you get equally strong partners, there is a greater impetus towards conflict in the case of disagreements, that is a negative indicator to the relationships longevity.

At the very least, the Ashamen will not have a fraction of their number devoted to the ttracking down and severing of any man that can channel.

But was she a lesbian?