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Pride Week: An Admission

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Hiarth, thank you so much for sharing your story, you are so brave and I really hope it will end up with you being able to live the life you want and that feels like you, if that makes sense. I am glad your mother took it gracefully, even with the comment about dressing down arund family ( :dry: ) but it could have been much worse.

 

Also YAY Joy Division shirt!

 

Do you prefer she or they pronouns? Just good to know :)

 

 

Someone I know has just gone through a FtM transition; he had a stroke at 32 and figured life was too short to live as the wrong gender. He looks so extremely happy now, he works as a personal trainer at the gym my husband uses. I haven't seen him in person for a while, but before he came out we used to talk every now and then and I got the impression several times he wasn't happy with his life, his body and his lifechoices. According to my husband now he's glowing everytime he sees him. I'm really happy for him, and I hope you can reach that feeling too.

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Also yay: hormones. I actually need to always be on birth control pills because I have too little estrogen (PCOS). If I'm off birth control pills I start getting black body hair, especially in places a girl isn't supposed to have hair (I had to shave my thighs every day when I went out, and I had a moustache if I didn't remove hair), I also got bad acne (wich also is gone now that I'm on pills).

 

I went almost two years without pills, so starting on them again was harsh on the body. I can't even imagine how it feels like for a body that's not used to those hormones at all.

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Ok that was weird. I had a post after grumble with a ? But it kept coming out . And then I thought it double posted so I deleted the . And now it's gone.

 

DM is haunted.

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Also yay: hormones. I actually need to always be on birth control pills because I have too little estrogen (PCOS). If I'm off birth control pills I start getting black body hair, especially in places a girl isn't supposed to have hair (I had to shave my thighs every day when I went out, and I had a moustache if I didn't remove hair), I also got bad acne (wich also is gone now that I'm on pills).

 

I went almost two years without pills, so starting on them again was harsh on the body. I can't even imagine how it feels like for a body that's not used to those hormones at all.

Have you tried metformin? It's a little easier on the body than estradiol but not as effective.

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Yes I use metformin now to try to help me loose weight; PCOS has led to me having insulin problems as well, my body doesn't burn fat on it's own, it stores everything (I've gained 30 kilos over 2 years). The BC pills only makes that worse, so I take metformin on top to try to help my body first stop gaining weight, and then hopefully be able to loose some eventually.

 

I've tried metformin only and no BC pills and that didn't help on the other symptoms though.

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Thanks, Mish!

 

Pronouns are becoming the strangest aspect of this endeavor. I've asked friends in the know to use the "as presenting" rule, meaning that since I'm not full time yet I'd prefer pronouns based on what gender I'm presenting. It turns out that's properly confusing and the people close to me are stumbling around actively reconsidering their language use. On the other hand, the friends who have ignored my request and just refer to me as "she" or "Wren" all the time are doing much better in that regard and only edit their language around strangers or people who aren't in the know.

 

I think that, all things considered, referring to me universally in the feminine is much simpler and fairer for everyone involved. It's a learning process for me, too. I swore I would try to make this as easy as I possibly could for the beloved souls in my life and that means understanding and grace when we make mistakes. A misplaced pronoun isn't the end of the world.

 

So, I'd prefer that we use feminine pronouns but it's ok if we make mistakes, too. :)

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Thank you :) I prefer to ask, I think that's the respectful thing to do. I get so mad when people refer to the guy I earlier mentioned as "she" and calls him by his old name (on purpose); that's just rude and unforgiveable!

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The usually get a stern talking-to from me. I can't even halfway understand how it feels to be born in the wrong body, but I do know how it feels like to be trapped in a sick body, and how frustarting that is when your body keeps you from living the life you wish. It's not the same, but it's enough that I am very protective about trans rights and respect. I'm also queer myself to those two together has made me a loud trans advocate.

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Everyone should be able to be themselves, and change themselves accordingly if necessary. Good on you to be strong enough to represent who you are, Hiarth.

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OH MY FRAKKING FRAKK.

 

I sent a "coming-out" letter to all of my siblings on Facebook. :/

 

*biting nails*

Edited by Hiarthbeorn

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I chose that avenue because getting them all together at once is impossible and we're able to have a round table discussion without the anxiety of physical conversation.

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